I like being ordinary. When I was younger, I wanted to be famous. I wanted to act, dance, write, host a talk show, be on TV. (Okay, yes, I did these things, but not in a big way. When I was younger, I was frustrated with my lack of fame; but lately I’m happy I never hit it big. I could never have withstood the attention.)
I don’t know whether to blame Whitney’s death (or Michael Jackson’s or Amy Winehouse’s or Elvis’s or you name them) on our f’ed up culture that elevates celebrity and then loves to watch our elevated gods plummet. Or maybe I should blame the pervasiveness of drugs and alcohol in pop culture. Or better yet, let’s acknowledge the reality that drug and alcohol addictions are diseases — diseases that inevitably and eventually kill people if left untreated. The best treatment is the one that includes 12 steps and anonymity (the exact opposite of celebrity!)
As a society, we need to get in the habit of finding heroes in our real lives, not in movies, fan magazines, or political parties. Then, let’s build each other up — don’t put each other down or delight in anyone’s demise.
Our outpouring of love for people who’ve died from addiction is too late. Yet every person has the potential to heal from diseases of addiction.
If someone you know needs healing from a disease of addiction, tell them, write to them, let them know that their illness can be treated; that they can get better. This is hard to do. Do we ever tell people we worry about their drinking? I rarely do. When I have had those conversations, it’s been very hard. I’ve needed to detach with love. Give people their dignity. Give them their choice — the choice to recover is always there. Making that choice as a public person must be extremely difficult.
Yet life’s difficult journeys are the ones we learn and grow the most from. The difficult times are the moments that teach us to be real and to love one another. That is, at least, what I tell myself. Me, someone ordinary, not someone famous, but someone who is alive and happy and grateful for each new day.
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Whitney Houston’s death hit me pretty hard. Maybe harder than the others though all were unnecessary and really sad. I did not know her but I knew she was a Christian and I wanted her to lean on her Faith and become victorious over the addiction. Last night, I immediately thought about a nephew that I love so dearly. He has an addiction to all the fashionable and deadly drugs. I call him and text him regularly and tell him how much I love him. He, like so many others, has attended rehab but is back to the same ole stuff. I pray everyday that he finds the strength to overcome. There but for the grace of God go I.
You are one of my heros, Mary Beth. I couldn’t have said it better myself. Thanks for spreading the message of hope,
Thanks. You are one of my heroes too and I think you could have written it better, because you are a better writer.